This post is part of a 4 part series that starts today! In the next 3 weeks, I will be talking all about Montessori. Going through the basic philosophy, prepared environments, age-appropriate toys, and materials.
I was lucky enough to be introduced to Montessori by a friend early on in my daughter’s life. My friend told me it was all about letting your little one learn at their own pace, make their own decisions and when you get the choice choose natural products and activities. Noting that “You’re probably already Montessori and don’t even know it”. She was right.
Now that I’ve been consciously practicing Montessori for awhile I hear a lot of talk about what toys are appropriate and doubt about making your environment perfect. We are all on our own journey here and there isn’t a standard we all need to meet in order to practice this lifestyle.
You don’t have to go to church every Sunday to be Christian, likely you don’t have to include Montessori in every part of your life to practice Montessori.
I’d like to think Montessori is more about the interactions you have with your child on a day to day basis, the way you act when given a chance to educate your child and how your child learns with a hands-on approach.
Montessori is a form of education that offers a broad vision of education as an “aid to life”. It draws its principles from the natural development of the child. Letting each individual child’s inner directives freely guide them toward wholesome growth. Here is a great place to learn more about Montessori.
Donate all the flashy, noisy plastic toys. I know this is by far the hardest step to follow through with. Truth be told we still have a few flash toys hiding away here that I just couldn’t bring myself to give away.
Yes, you are the adult but you can still show your child respect. Talk to her like you would an equal. Talking to the child, not AT the child.
This works best when given 2-3 choices as not to overwhelm your child. For example, ask them whether they would like to wear the blue coat or the red coat today. This helps them with confidence and independence.
Children want to learn. They want to help. It is very hard to let your child make a mistake that you can foresee but it is very important for them to learn the consequences of their actions. Obviously, if your child is in danger you should intervene. Helping with laundry, cleaning, cooking, and gardening are all great ways to incorporate your child in everyday tasks.
This one can be difficult. Instead of saying “No” you can say “We don’t play with those Tommy. How about we read a book.” It is always best to tell them exactly what they shouldn’t be doing and then give them a new activity to focus on. Try to create more “yes” spaces in our house. This allows the child to explore worry free.
You don’t have to do everything perfectly to consider yourself Montessori.
There are several guidelines but at the end of the day, you need to find a parenting style that suits you. So if you have to change the guidelines a bit to meet your needs then don’t stress. The Montessori police won’t be knocking at your door.
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Do you practice this lifestyle in your home? What benefits have you experienced from this form of education? Leave me a message in the comments I’d love to know how your journey is going!
While I will agree with most of what you said, Montessori was not anti-plastic. She was an educator of opportunity. Her glass beads were formed because of a local glass shop. However, she was anti-distractions.
In terms of education, I think any materials would be fine as long as they fit into the Montessori thought process.
Thank you for that comment. I have generalized plastic because the majority of non Montessori toys are made with plastic these days. Often plastic toys are easy to break and are not of good quality. That being said there are some wonderful plastic materials out there so I do agree with what you are saying. Thanks again for reading! Holly xx
I’m a single father to an 11 month old girl. She basically has the freedom to do whatever she wants to do.. Within reason. I just close off the areas which I’d like her not to go into, ie. The kitchen. And anything that’s at her level is fair game. She loves to read and make a mess of magazines. She’s on the waiting list for a Montessori daycare. Her home nurse and everyone who meets her falls in love with her and constantly mention how happy and advanced she is, for an only child
I didn’t even know what Montessori was at that stage
Montessori can definitely be a way of life, however the philosophy is so much complex and deeper than wooden toys and giving your toddler choices. I suggest reading some of Maria Montessori’s books on the philosophy before giving advice on it. It does a disservice to Montessorians to make a profit on the Montessori name by giving inaccurate advice. My 2 cents. 🙁
I appreciate your comment. I do disagree, of course. I think that if you are able to practice even just the smallest amount of Montessori you should be proud of yourself. The philosophy is complex and deep which can be overwhelming to most. I don’t agree that you must read and fully understand Montessori before practicing. I believe we are all on our own journey learning as we go. Did you become an expert before applying the principles in your home? It takes time to learn a complex philosophy, using wooden toys and giving your toddler choices is a beginning phase, hence the article, 5 EASY WAYS TO BEGIN.
Hi Holly!!! I just wanted to share that I have read all of Maria Montessori’s books and completed my AMS certification, and I adore your website and am so thankful for your guidance and service here! Thank you so much!!!! xoxox Antonia
Both of my children go to Montessori and we love it. However, I was wondering what age group would you introduce the book Hatchet by Gary Paulson?
I am so glad you and your children are loving Montessori. As for the book, I am not an expert in young adult Montessori. It would be a good idea for you to ask in a Montessori Facebook group. There will be several Montessori mothers who can help with this. All the best!
I’ve been real interested in doing this with my 16 month old. Is there an online store or a place I can buy cheaply toys that follow these guidelines?
Hey Megan! You can find some great materials and resources here https://thistoddlerlife.com/10-montessori-materials-for-toddlers/ I often buy on eBay or thrift shops if you aren’t opposed to second hand. Let me know if I can help!
Thank you so much for this post. As you said it looks like i have been doing Montessori without even knowing it . Thats why i would love to learn about it more . Theres only one thing that i find so much difficulty at which is allowing my 22 month old help me in the kitchen because of all the mess that she makes….i never get mad at her if she dirtied herself or the house but i try to avoid it as much as i can. How can i get myself to the point where i can let her do things on her own ? Are there any tricks to avoid having to clean up for an hour after certain activities? Thanks!!
I am so happy you want to learn more about Montessori. I too am awaiting the day when my girl doesn’t make a mess in the kitchen. I am also waiting for the day my husband doesn’t make a mess in the kitchen but that will probably never happen. I can suggest putting towels down when using liquids to help with the floor mess. As for the rest, I think time and practice are the only things that will help. Make sure to include your child in the cleanup process this may help them realize how big of a mess they are making. Practice with how to properly use utensils will definitely help with the mess as well. Maybe give your toddler things to do such as washing veggies or cutting fruit that tend to be a little less messy. Keep the big messes for once a week or every other week so you don’t get too stressed out. Good luck mama!
I’m glad this post was helpful for you! As for your MIL maybe you can suggest activities for gifts instead of toys 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!
My daughter is only 6 months but i love the idea of montessori. Can you give me info for starting out this early? If im a stay at home mom and dont wish to put her in any daycare montessori or not, how can i do daily activities myself from home? What are some good learning activities and toys? Any creativity tips for games and for the house? Thank you for your time!
Hey Emmi! I’m so glad to hear you love the idea of Montessori. It truly is a wonderful form of education. We didn’t actually start our Montessori journey until my daughter was 9 months old. I wish I would have started sooner! Here are a couple of places to look for help. This is a blog called How We Montessori following her child’s progression with Montessori starting from birth. There are loads of activity suggestions for every age on her site. Also, when I was starting out Montessori 101 a Facebook group helped me so much. They will answer any questions you have and you can find other mamas with the same age baby as you to relate with. I hope you enjoy your journey with Montessori and hope to hear from you again. 🙂
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I’ve sent this to my mother who lives 2-3 connecting flights away so that when she visits she can begin to imagine what to expect. It’s similar to what she did with me, but this explains the details of the extra/different parenting steps perfectly.